Yet the expectations for each couple, or at least each female, is that this idea of matrimony and having a family will be the answer to all our problems today.
It is precisely when the stress of responsibility ramps up, the feelings of overwhelming anxiety plague us that we try to deny that these things are even happening. Aren’t we supposed to love this time in our lives? Isn’t motherhood just wonderful? Isn’t being a father all that you dreamt it would be? NO!
How often I thought to myself, when my children were very little, that I hated the everydayness of it. “How can you be hungry already? I just fed you!” My poor little Katherine would look at me like,”Um, it’s lunch time.” I loved my children and I still do. It wasn’t about not loving my beloved babies and every parent knows that.
The light at the end of the tunnel is nowhere to be found and seems like it never will be.
The insurmountable obstacles grow, as do our children. In this day and age, there is no precedent for how these children will turn out who are living in the strange world of social media that their parents resist being a part of. There has never been a ‘generation gap’ quite like this.
So, does that mean marriage and having a family predicts doom to each couple? Will there eventually be no more children? Not necessarily, however, what it does point to is the old ways of doing things DO NOT work any longer.
Once a couple marries there seems to be a role, a meaning to the words husband and wife that no longer fit. The assimilation into the new way of ‘partner and companion’ has not replaced the ‘true everlasting love’ that has been the assumption since the beginning of time. How will we be able to see our way through this? Let’s talk about it.
Debra Whittam is the author of “I'm I Going to be Ok?" For any media inquiries or questions please contact: Contact@DebraWhittam.com