A Philosophy Of Others:
I Can’t Stand You Just Because You’re You
August 9, 2016
How do we develop our opinions, attitudes, and behaviors toward others? Why is it that on the scale from humble to prideful many of us live on the (or sit solidly on the) rigid platform of ‘I’m much better than him/her/them? Feeling great relief in that stance, we live our lives in another ‘universal/generation’, caste-like, judgment of being better than.
So, what emotional turmoil would we live in if we realized human beings are, for the most part, all the same? What if people and things were as Buddha, Allah, Jesus and all the others who came before and after them, were enlightened enough to see it? Could any of us tolerate the basic truth that world
wide issues of hate, greed, fear and panic have nothing to do with how different we all are from one another? It is quite the opposite. We are so very similar, emotionally.
The simple fact set forth from the beginning of time is ~ pride versus humble plays out in the interactions between us. If not in the very first knowing of one another, eventually we have to feel better than the other. It is almost as though we could not survive our pain if we didn’t. The simple truth of how a person is truly perceived is based on the person who is doing the perceiving. It takes years to realize, normally after someone has passed away, that the core worth and value of that individual was far more than any earthly perception could have realized. How many of us have heard from someone’s deathbed the words, “I’m so grateful I hated, cheated, betrayed, abandoned, deluded and, most of all, mistreated all those around me.” I doubt very many.
The progression of pride is akin to every other addictive behavior, fueled and fortified by the need for more, more often. Lost in the haze of arrogant condescension, we play on the vulnerabilities of anyone who reeks of it. Far more difficult is the desire to be humble. To see around us, all human beings as equals and that we deserve exactly what’s happening in our lives and what we have or don’t have in the moment. In those moments of humble might be found the freedom from the never-ending yearning for ‘more’.
Humble is neither altruistic nor painful. Humble safely brings one to a place of neutrality where the ‘greats’ eventually realized themselves to be. This was a way to finally calm the inner turmoil. A journey well worth each step.