REVIEWS

"Life is difficult. We find that out gradually throughout our lives, but without a real support system, it happens like a hurricane. "Am I Going To Be Ok?" is the brutally honest account of one woman's walk through the storm. If you've ever asked yourself the title's question, this book will show you that there is HOPE. It's a journey of self-discovery and self-confidence. Family dysfunction needn't define your future. Excellent book!"

FRANCES TARTAL

"I truly enjoyed reading Debbie's story in her book "Am I Going to Be Okay?" We all learn through others stories - and all have moments in life when we wonder "Am I Going to Be Okay?" - sometimes we just need to hear the answer "yes" through others experiences."

REBECCA HINK

"I was surprised by how much of this book resonated with me. Much of what she shares about verbal abuse and how we hide it, and eventually have to deal with the scars it left on our psyche, truly hits home.

Much of the rest of her trials are not relevant to my life, but I was fascinated by how she was able to find her way through it, to forgive and to create a life to be proud of--that's something we all strive for, in the end."

TERESA KANDAR

"I took a particular interest in this book due to the subject matter and I have read many over the years which have proclaimed to be inspirational or a must read for anyone suffering from mental illness/anxiety/abuse/addiction etc etc.

This one is written as a memoir, and hit home on quite a few levels. The author displays how difficult family dynamics can be and how as a child we take on board a lot of the guilt when it isn’t necessarily directed at us.

 

I found her take on it fairly enlightening and she herself is a strong lady. I think there is a difference between the US/UK approach to dealing with things. The British tend to hold their opinions in ... but I did get an overwhelming sense of YES “I will be ok” if I allow myself to be. It also portrays quite strongly that we have a responsibility for our own destiny and can find the strength to mould our own path if we get support.

 

Of course circumstances don’t always work to our advantage but as a book it’s fairly comforting to read and know others are going through similar situations. It also showed me how cathartic it can be to write things down and share."

ALISON

"This book is reminiscent of The Glass Castle, by Jeannette Walls. The author candidly shares her life, from her birth to the present and focuses on the mental trauma that can swirl through families from one generation to the next. Ms. Whittam describes her journey from misery to meaning in a clear and supportive voice. It was interesting to me that she asked, “Am I going to be ok?” and not “What’s wrong with me?”. The author provides information from professional sources to enrich the personal information she provides. She also presents solid information on the 12 Step Program and on how to deal with the dying and death of a parent. I personally am blessed to have never had to deal with serious mental health issues with myself or my family, but I am glad I read this engaging memoir. Highly recommend."

JENA HENRY

"This book is an honest look at ones past and how you can choose your own ending to your life no matter what challenges you face along the way. It is a witty self examination of the writers life and how she overcame many obstacles.It provided me insight into my own life and gave me hope that I have the power to choose my own destiny without putting blame on my past and those that shaped it.

It is written in such a descriptive way, that you can build these images in your own mind. Just as our own experiences in life are so vivid. It made me laugh and cry as Itbrought up my own memories of my past. Some I wished I could forget and others so dear. No matter what they made me who I am today and I thank this writer and this book for reminding me where I came from and that I am going to be Okay.

 

Fantastic book, a must read!!!!!"

SUSAN GARVER

"This book is changing my life. This book taught me to put a face to living with the childhood wounds from dysfunctional family origins. I am not a self-help book person, but this book has a unique teaching quality. Ms. Whittam not only lets us enter her world of shame, guilt and resolve, she coaxes us enter our own world of shame-based wounds and quite possibly our own resolve. She is allowing us to put words to the thinking that runs through the psyche of childhood shame and anxiety, which often masks itself through destructive behaviors, eating disorders, compulsions, addictions, abuse, control or co-dependence issues. I highly recommend this book."

JULIE MASON

"It took decades, but Debbie managed to overcome addiction and transform her life, a story she tells in this memoir. She talks about growing up in a dysfunctional family, and beginning a dysfunctional family of her own. But what broke the cycle was that Debbie found the healing power of support groups. So many of us believe that we can shake it alone--and Debbie thought that too at first. This is a must-read for anyone trying to fight addiction and seek help. Debbie pulls through, and you can too."


ROSIE MARIE

"This is a beautiful story that anyone can relate too. I guarantee that every character represents someone you know and help explains why they are who they are. This story tells a story of love and a story of wanting to be loved. It helps explain how to cope with the bad things that happen in your life and how important it is to find a small group that you can share your life with. The author exposes her heart to help others. Simply beautiful."

KIM

"Very insightful and an easy read that flows. I re-read this book and I was able to finish it in one day because I couldn't put it down. This book makes its point without alienating the reader. Debra does not talk down to her audience. She has a conversation with every reader and each new owner of this book will find something in themselves similar to ms Whittam. I encourage everyone to give this book a chance. Such a great read."

KATHERINE

"A remarkable, multi-generational story of insanity and survival told with candor, compassion, and courage."

DIANE HERNON CHAVIS, JD, 

Executive Speechwriter and Editor

"As a fellow sufferer from addiction and shame-based mental illness, I can’t stress enough how much it has meant to me to discover this insightful book. Debra Whittam casts an unashamed light on her shame-based childhood and subsequent decent into a sea of addiction, loneliness and denial. I was skeptical when I first picked up the book as there have been a great many books about these subjects. After reading it, my spirit has a renewed hope in turning my own shame-based afflictions into a truly peaceful existence."

JULIE MASON

Legal and Organizational Leadership Professional

"Am I Going To Be Okay? is an enormously helpful book. Debra Whittam weaves her personal experiences with those of her clients into a thought-provoking book that touches profoundly on the relationship between family fears and frustrations and how they affect our levels of self-esteem. The result is a story that will be helpful to all who might need to throw off fear and frustration and gain the courage and self-confidence to greet each new day."

DR. CASEY MCNEAL, AUTHOR, 

Building Relationships: Effective Strategies for How to Work with People

"This beautifully written story highlights the tremendous impact childhood experiences have on our lives. The author is very insightful in capturing the connection between messages we receive from powerful people in our lives, the experiences we have and how we navigate the journey of growing up and becoming an adult. The book is a must read for all who struggle to achieve a healthy, fulfilling life."

BARBARA JULIUSSEN

"Powerful and honest!"

PAMELA R WINNICK

"This was wonderful book, filled with knowledge and memories that hit home for me about childhood and growing up. It helped make sense for me of things that went on in my years growing up, knowing I was not alone, I really enjoyed it, thank you Debbie!"

MARY RANKER

"I can't say enough about this book. Coming from someone who can relate to many of the situations contained in these pages, I found strength and comfort in the stories shared in this memoir. A read that I won't soon forget!"

THERESA

"Having my own personal journey with addiction, I knew I would find this story relatable. But I was intrigued by how many painful childhood incidents are responsible for current adult anxieties which the author explains. She shares about past abuse and a family's need to hide it - yet beautifully and honestly explains her journey to overcomes it. Easy read."

LINDA VALANT

"I took a particular interest in this book due to the subject matter and I have read many over the years which have proclaimed to be inspirational or a must read for anyone suffering from mental illness/anxiety/abuse/addiction etc etc.

This one is written as a memoir, and hit home on quite a few levels. The author displays how difficult family dynamics can be and how as a child we take on board a lot of the guilt when it isn’t necessarily directed at us.

I found her take on it fairly enlightening and she herself is a strong lady. I think there is a difference between the US/UK approach to dealing with things. The British tend to hold their opinions in .. but I did get an overwhelming sense of YES “I will be ok” if I allow myself to be. It also portrays quite strongly that we have a responsibility for our own destiny and can find the strength to mould our own path if we get support.

Of course circumstances don’t always work to our advantage but as a book it’s fairly comforting to read and know others are going through similar situations. It also showed me how cathartic it can be to write things down and share.

Many thanks to the author and PUYB for the opportunity to read in exchange for my honest opinion."

ALI

"Ms. Whittam has written this book about her struggles with alcohol addiction. Spoiler alert-she won! But it wasn't easy and family relationships made it more difficult. A great read that will help anyone going through similar issues personally or with friends or family."

JOHN M KNIES JR

"Beautiful story. This is a story that shows how significant, the style/atmosphere you were raised can impact you at every stage of your life. This is a story that shows that it is possible to overcome your childhood or your situation. This lovely story makes a great connection to the authors circumstances and why she feels the way she does. I enjoyed the book so much that I will continue to buy more copies to share with friends that had a tough childhood, that struggle with the loss of a loved one, grief or addiction or know someone that has. I think this story helps to explain why people behave the way they do when they struggle with something they don't quite understand. For instance, it is hard to understand an addict if you aren't one. This brings perspective and I highly recommend it. I hope this story will bring hope to those that struggle with judging others."

K FORD

"This book is changing my life. This book taught me to put a face to living with the childhood wounds from dysfunctional family origins. I am not a self-help book person, but this book has a unique teaching quality. Ms. Whittam not only lets us enter her world of shame, guilt and resolve, she coaxes us enter our own world of shame-based wounds and quite possibly our own resolve. She is allowing us to put words to the thinking that runs through the psyche of childhood shame and anxiety, which often masks itself through destructive behaviors, eating disorders, compulsions, addictions, abuse, control or co-dependence issues. I highly recommend this book."

JULIE MASON

"Realness, thoroughness, her life, my life, our lives.. Our layers shared in a welcoming, grounding, accepting, non-judgemental and heart/soul way. What Debra was able to write about using her own life experiences with an intensely caring way of helping me process my own life letters at the same time... It helped with connection, grief, peace with realness .. I have already shared Am I Going To Be Okay? with both friends and clients of my own. Debbie, thank you!!!"

JANNETTE

"This is one of those books that perhaps you can relate to as yourself or as knowing someone. I had a little trouble reading because it hit rather close to home. It took a lot for the author to write about addiction, anxiety, loss of beloved and those family memories you'd like to forget. She opened up about her own life. This took courage.

The book may give those who are having some of these problems, the nerve to come out with what they are going through. Sometimes we feel we have so much inside and you keep pushing more and more down until there's no more room to push. We feel that people don't understand. That they will think badly of you for what you are going through. Sadly, there are those who pass judgement. If you yourself have never gone through any of these things, it's hard to understand and relate to friends and family who are going through these difficult times. It's not easy, by a long shot. Sometimes you don't have the luxury of having a professional to talk to. It's strictly you and at times it can be way too much. In order to get through these things and regain your self confidence is to quit blaming yourself. You didn't ask for this. It happens to some of us. So if you know someone, be kind and don't judge. This is the author's memoir about her life. This is not a one of a kind story. Many have similar stories that they keep built up inside.

BE KIND and try to LISTEN!"

GAYLE PACE

"A beautifully honest and well-written account of one woman's journey through addiction, grief, and mental illness. Ms. Whittam’s words flow over the pages as she seeks to answer the question that has long begged for a response, "Am I going to be okay?"

KATHY JO POLLACK

"My first reaction after reading this book was to find Ms. Whittan and hug her for two hours.Next..I found different scenarios, statements,thoughts, words that meant so very much to me. Very positive strong reaction for me. This book will help many who had similar circumstances and how to overcome them. It really does prove the point that anything is possible with help and the right state of mind. I am overwhelmed and will share with many."

CABO

"I totally enjoyed reading Ms. Whittam's journey from childhood to adulthood. It was a compelling read - sometimes sad and a bit bittersweet as she recalled her mother's insecurities and her dad's brusqueness. Her memories are raw, but the love between her and her parents, in spite of their flaws, was unmistakable. In her ability to step back, get help for herself, and forgive and work through her past, Ms. Whittam has demonstrated that she is more than okay. Highly recommend this book for anyone who knows someone who struggles with mental illness and/or addiction. I applaud Ms. Whittam's willingness - as well as her family's - to share her very personal story."

BETSY RADCLIFFE

"An inspiring memoir that I didn't want to end. Ms. Whittam uses humor to describe some of her life situations but also bears her soul with complete honesty. This book is quite thought provoking bringing me back to a time where I didn't know if I was going to be okay. A fabulous read."

GAIL

"This is a book that will help clear your thinking about your own journey in life. Ms. Whittam tells her story with great depth and emotion. Although it is written so well that it is difficult to put down. The insights into the family, depression, and addiction make this more than a memoir."

ROSSEANNE PONCE

"Such a wonderful book. It flowed so easily that I couldn't put it down. You will not regret getting this book, I know I don't. It spoke to me on so many levels. Debra is such a beautiful person and it shows through her book."

KAT

"I could not put it down until I finished it that night. I admire the author’s strength in being so honest about addiction, anxiety, depression, loss of loved ones and unpleasant family episodes in her own life, will enable those who read the book to open up and face things we may have experienced but did not want to talk about to others. Learning to understand frustrating relationships with people we love the most, due to their emotional experiences, we may be able to forgive, love them and let go of our resentment and blame in order to have positive feelings about ourselves and love our life."

JEAN

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